Matchmaker, Matchmaker Find the One by @OnlineDateCoach

After my break-up from a long-term relationship, I didn’t feel like going out much or setting up an online dating profile to find available men. I wanted to try something new to help me find the one.

So one day, while internet surfing, I responded to an advertisement that popped up on my screen looking for mature daters. I later found out it was for one of those popular matchmaking services, and they eagerly responded to the form I submitted to them.

It was a guy who contacted me back. He explained, “we don’t usually call everyone who submits a form to us but your response is exactly what we’re looking for.”

He then asked if I would come in for an interview to meet with their staff personally, and to find out if their service is something I’d be interested in trying. I thought to myself, why not, and scheduled an appointment to meet with him that following Saturday.

I tried a matchmaking service in the past but they didn’t find the one for me

The matchmaker I used ten years ago couldn’t find the one. It involved paying a membership fee, paying for a photo shoot and a video recording of myself interviewed, and then flipping through a huge photo book located on a table in their office, to see which guys I might be interested in contacting for a date–but not this new matchmaking service.

With this matchmaker there was no photo shoot required, but I did sit through a pretty long interview process with a female representative, who I’m sure only gets paid on commission because she is very good at what she does.

They take the results from the interview and then match you up on a blind date with whom they think you’re best suited for. Hmm, this could get interesting… I like to be in full control of who I go out with but, what the heck… tell me more.

The service is pricey and you don’t find out how much until the very end, once they’ve emotionally hooked you in of course. They promise qualified candidates, who are ready for a relationship, have established careers, and are very financially stable, “…otherwise they wouldn’t be able to afford this kind of service,” they said. Now what more could a single girl in her thirties, who wants to find the one,  ask for?

In order to find the one, I’m always looking for new ways to meet available men

After a little negotiation, I was on board. I purchased their smallest package of 5 referrals and arranged for them to throw in a 6 month “freeze” period, just-in-case I happen to really like one guy and want them to hold my membership before they send me anymore.

I’m thinking pretty optimistically at this point and I’m anticipating my first referral now. I will share all the juicy details with you right here. And I can’t wait for your comments and stories too.

Ever consider using a matchmaking service to find the one for you?

Do you think I’m completely wasting my time and my money?

Have you ever been set-up on a blind date? How did it go?

Tell me about your experience by leaving a comment here.

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

Karen February 14, 2012 at 9:36 pm

Sounds like the same service I used. The sales pitch is very emotional and high pressured. Have your questions ready BEFORE you go in and be prepared to walk out. Don’t worry, they will stop you and offer a lower price.
I found out from the man I was seeing that they don’t charge the men as much because they have fewer of them. He got a lifetime membership for less than I paid for my 5 referrals. So the line about the men affording the program is misleading. My advice is to be very careful – read the fine print thoroughly. I requested that they send my matches more quickly than 1 every 2 months and they could not accomodate me. I also asked for a freeze over the phone but later was told I had to do it in writing and so lost my remaining matches. Be very clear about the rules before you sign.
Good luck!


Online Date Coach February 15, 2012 at 3:18 pm

Hi Karen,

Thanks for sharing your personal feedback. It’s true; they did offer a lower price when I first told them no way. And it’s interesting you say that about them having fewer men than women. In my experience, I would say that’s true too. There are fewer men using these types of services compared to women.

Best regards,
Online Date Coach


Brenda Coleman February 14, 2012 at 9:42 pm

I used a matchmaking service many years ago. After 10 years of online dating, matchmaking, etc., I decided to stop seeking. I will enjoy life, do the things I love and meet someone that way. At least I know, we have similar interests. Furthermore, we will have share some information about each other at the events we attended.


Online Date Coach February 15, 2012 at 9:40 pm

Hi Brenda,

Thanks for your comment, I agree with you 100%

Online dating, match making, and everything else we go out of our way to do in order to find the right person to spend life with can take a toll on you after a while. It’s easy to get discouraged over dating.

I like your outlook about it–just enjoy life and do the things you love to do. And by doing those things, and discovering new things, you never know who you’ll meet along the way.

You shine the most in the eyes of many when you follow what makes you happy.

Best regards,
Online Date Coach


witheredLILY March 12, 2012 at 3:12 pm

dating coach sometimes are helpful but not all of them. some services can be done with your own effort but the most useful thing they do is pre screen your date.


Online Date Coach March 12, 2012 at 9:57 pm

Hello Lily,

I agree, some services are a big help by having their members screened ahead of time. For example, this one service in particular likes to run background checks on each member before signing them up. You still need to be cautious, of course, but at least you know they’ve been check out first.

Best regards,
Online Date Coach


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